I am a divorced for almost 15 years now woman. I have 3 of the most beautiful children God ever allowed to walk this earth. I truly believe i was meant to marry their dad because i was told i could not have children. In that 10 year marraige i was blessed with my babies.
I was the one to file for the divorce after months of post partum i was dealing with beginning the day my last angel was borne. I was not thinking right. I was not healthy. I made some bad decisions with a wrong mind. In the end i have endured such abuse and accusations both verbal and public from my ex. He was hurt badly. I was not happy. We were not meant to be. Another sad country song for the books.
Alas, we were blessed with these babies. My ex went on to have the life he always wanted. He became a pilot, was better at his career than anyone. He was driven and did better than i believe he even thought he could. In the midst found a wonderful woman and was able to spend 4 years with his daughters and 2 with his son. Helping me out of a desperate situation after 10 years of raising them alone.
I have put up with every word, hateful spew, hell i even think he might have blamed me for constipation..haha. This all because ... a therapist told me once. I was the only thing he failed.
Now finally after 15 years.....I am able to say NO MORE. His wife and i always handled things well. This apparently was causing undue stress for her and i didnt know. So now, I finally after years of listening to my babies say MOM, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! DONT LET HIM TALK TO YOU THIS WAY. I did. This may not be the right way to handle medical and personal issues for my 15, 16 and almost 21 year old. But they i believe in their strength are now able to say when a dr's apt is. When a school even it. How much an extra curicular event may cost for the other parent to contact someone. I no longer wish to allow the abuse to continue. To my babies, i am sorry. I love you so much and wouldnt take a bullet for you. But ... Your daddy loves you. He can no longer abuse you to get to me. I am here to guide you, love you and provide any information to help via dr's, coaches etc. But i declare as of yesterday my boundary with this person has been burnt and listening to this very successful man play victim is no longer my responsibility.
Again, i pray my babies can forgive me and be proud of me. I am free and i can finally say NO MORE!
