Tuesday, November 19, 2013
"....." you know your a parent!
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Winter even in Texas
I just love this time of year. In my words: Cover the fluff sweaters, my boots dusted off, winter coat growing on my legs (yes i said it) , favorite jeans, chili or stews in the crock pot, no more sweating for my love and watching my kids and animals whiskers and hair in the wind. Even in Texas this is my favorite time of the year!!
Saturday, November 2, 2013
The calm before the chemo chaos
The last 6-8 weeks have been challenging to say the least, but what is coming......That is what Girl power is. This week we do not have one Dr. appointment (for donna). Just a calm week for Donna. preparing for the tests to come and then the horrific poison that will enter her in order to rid herself (only to maintain) temporarily of such an ugly cancer. My gram is still with us and at almost 91 still living at Donna's and has 24 hour care. I am not working at this time due to kids, donna, gram, moving, etc..... the list never stops. Who is going to hire someone that say "oh and um, i need off every other week twice a week and anytime someone craps out on her or my girls" LOL um not.
I look at the women that have come and some even gone from my life, then i look at my daughters look at their Nana (donna). I know, they will also be strong in their convictions. I watch them help and understand what is going on as they watch..me, her, B and our family come together in what will only end someday sooner than we had hoped. But...i know the Devine presence here is He has us to come together.
I look at her handle all she is facing.....in awe. What do i have to complain about? I could not be more blessed. Every time i have a shitty day now. Every time i get down or over whelmed. Is it relative? sure. Are we struggling? Hell yes. Am i healthy and loved and have my family that now includes that incredible (and also stubborn) man of mine? Hell yes! Am i able to somehow so far.....help her after all she has done for me? Yes. Devine Presence i thank You so much as i continue to just try....
I say more than ever, make me laugh. show me a sunrise or sunset. With every set of tears i make sure they are followed by laughter. It has too......crying only makes our eyes swollen, nose red and like my Memom said basically look like crap. Laughter through tears....Prayer through fear.
Yes, this week i will be washing all the big girl panties. Charging my broom and preparing to defy gravity once again with this woman i love so much. People ask me constantly.......How do you keep going? my answer is always the same. Where is the choice? That......was taught to me.
I wear a bracelet as several of us do in my family. It was given to me after my Dad died. You may recognize its scripture. "For God so loved this world that he gave his only begotten Son, that who so ever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." I never take it off, it keeps my Dad and my Father close.
This too shall pass..............breathe. inhale......exhale......repeat. Cherish what surrounds you and dont blink.
Friday, October 18, 2013
Andrea Gibson Mother-Daughter
Amazing how i found this. Gods hands have found me this morning. So many feelings about this. How about you?
Strong, stubborn survivors ....... the women in my family. The blood that runs through my veins, the woman that God Himself brought to me. On purpose.
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Change - dirty word?
Monday, June 17, 2013
Sara Kaye - Awesome spoken words DAUGHTERS
http://youtu.be/8sSfbQk7DxE
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Anger...just a bandaide
I made a poor choice last week, with good intentions. Have you ever done that? It of course was taken wrong.
This morning, some one reacted to that choice of mine. Instead of just deleting the ugliness I let the devil take over. Today us a difficult day for me. This is no excuse for bad behavior. As I sat in church this morning and once again looked at how far God and I have come...I reflected. Devil be gone. I an no longer that person and that life...is gone. I am blessed. To that person that showed such rage I say...I'm sorry for that and I will pray for you and I that the anger can be healed. Only with God can mine.
M
Wednesday, June 5, 2013
life is a battlefield! Arm yourself
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
Hair it is - truth and gratitude
I have had all types in my chair. The mom, dad, wife, grand parent, husband, mistress, professionals of all breeds, child, teenager, teenagers child, cancer patient, elderly, first haircut, last haircut and yes i have gone to you and painted those nails and fixed that wig even in a coffin.
No one has ever sat in my chair at a salon or on a stool in my kitchen (in your/my bathroom when the meltdown happens and i get the OMG help phone call before a huge event) by mistake. hairdresser/friend/therapist. It never escapes me who God has brought to me and what we learn from each other. What a gift. I always said i would retire someday and write a book (changing names of course) but im not sure anyone would print it. hahaha.
Thank you for 22 years of happiness and your blessings in a career of trust and compassion. I always said when my babies were little if a normal single mom had to reschedule their work day every day for a week because not one but three kids have chicken pox a corporate boss would have laughed and fired me. Not this lady, my customers offered wine and zanex.
To the future hairdressers that want to cut those 4.99 wigs and not understand a trim is just a trim; it is boo! scaring the ends and they fall off. The ones that think oh i will just do what i want and they still have to pay me. How about the young ones that want to sit on their phone and dont remember your name? Shame on you!! That is a person sitting in your chair. he/she is your bread and butter and needs not only a new do but a friend. If you are truly paying attention you might even realize that person may actually be there for you.
That is all. #an old sassy broom riding hairdresser.
Monday, June 3, 2013
Fear & Doubt vs God & a Strong willed woman
With age i have liked this train analogy much better. With age i have thought of that light at the end of the tunnel as dimming, going out and even blinking just to throw me off (Gods sense of humor). The last year has been one of "those" years. More of the roller coaster kind. Yet, more blessings than troubles. Many many more. i know this to be true, even fact.
The last month has tested this knowledge and last week i fear tested my families. Being a manic, strong willed woman, i tend to allow my fear to react vs. respond. I come unglued faster and forget who my Rock is and how He found me. I forget all i have come through and how i got here. All i see and feel is fear. Add to that a medical issue and it weakened my spirit and ruined most of my week into the weekend.
Here it is Monday again and i woke with the same fears and pain. But.....much to the devils dismay, rolled over and grabbed my devotional. I realized right then i did not read it once last week. I prayed every day but i did not listen. I was not still enough to hear Him only my fear. I was not doing what i know i should. i was not following my rules. I allowed fear (the devil in my life by the way....fear and doubt) to make me believe otherwise.
I would not have the blessings i do now had i not created these rules i live by. The very boundaries that keep me safe in His arms. So this week i say to fear and doubt...i still hurt physically, im still worried and the issues i need resolved are still not resolved BUT i sacrifice them all to Him. (Leviticus 1:2) I will be still and listen, read and take care of me and my family with the same blind Faith that has given me so much. I will sacrifice all this fear and doubt up to You. I have been down this tunnel and come out with Him.
So be GONE evil one. You are not welcome in this home or my heart. I have already seen it all and i recognize you. I am responsible for me, my actions and emotions. This train of love i am on is safe and loved and through the darkness will come the light. My family, though this side of nuts brings me all the strength i was meant to have. I am exactly where i should be. I am blessed even when i dont feel it. I look at my family.....each of them and remember. How lucky am i to have each of them and their flaws? For this too shall pass, and this time it will pass with us all together.
I am putting away my pen (control) and remembering......i am not in control. I am just blessed.
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
I am not your punching bag, i am your parent.
do for me
buy for me
can you do this for me
when will you do this
why cant i do this
its my way or no way
i cant
i dont care
lies, lies
i can go on and on and on. i realize most of this is normal. But what if they dont out grow it? what if..they truly believe i owe it to them?
Ever notice, the more you do for them, the more they expect?
I say notice this: Do for yourself. Notice what i do actually do for you. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Stand on your own two feet and be proud of yourself and stop caring what others think of you and start caring more what i think of you. Stop using me as your punching bag. I stopped being one the second i delivered you or started caring for your child. Kick somewhere else. This mom is tired.
This generation needs to learn the manners that they had when they were small, are still a must. They are not optional. Put them back on and find the respect for your elders. You may otherwise find yourself alone and regretting much. I may start living for me instead of you. I enjoy caring for you. You are my job and i take that seriously and with much much love however;
I am important, not just your parent.
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Teachers/parents
I have three completely different children. They look alike, sometimes smell alike and might even use similar gestures but they are so different. I see me in them a lot. As a mom i want more. More from them, for them and of them. I see their dad as well, even friends i have had in their lives over a span of time and some very recently. We are all teachers to our children.
I have allowed people to hurt me, run over me, abuse me verbally and physically over a span of time. In efforts unknowing to me of "doing the right thing" of course. In these last 19 years my babies have watched a mom set boundaries and then become TOO stubborn. They have seen me go from weak to batshit crazy at times. They have found.....i am human. I pray they see i am consistent in my love for them. I wonder though sometimes when i hear how they treat me, or see how they act towards me? Did they learn that from me? Because of how i allowed others to treat me or because of how i treat others.
I have two that want more.......always more. One that barely asks a thing and only wants quiet. As a child she was the informer. She is my unique love. She doesnt want to be like anyone, she just wants to be someone. The oldest was my rock much to young, i never asked a thing. He would anticipate it and go above and beyond... and in the end that has made him weak. how is that possible? I have no doubt he will achieve great things but the pain he will put himself and others through first is hard to watch. My middle one......my minime. She is the most passionate. she FEELS everything. Then makes sure i FEEL it as well.
If my own children dont understand moms boundaries, how am i assured they set them for others.
I say all the time as it was said to me: Parenting is an uphill challenge, one i was blessed with and quickly outnumbered by. It is an endurance contest - Bill Cosby & Dad said.
between you and me.......its amazing how much i love these three people, such a blessing all day every day..........and it can be exhausting. <3
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
note to self
So in this last month once again things have changes for i what i would 90% of the time feel like is for the better. Then that 10% of manic/panic = Fear will kick in and its time to do what i have learned to do over time: wait 24 hours, step back. pray. rest. Be still.....only in the stillness can i hear Him and push away that evil manic/panic fear.
There is never enough money, never enough time (per my sister). Breathe because.....I have and am surrounded with so much Love. Inhale.......exhale, repeat. Coming unglued is ok. Just step back and Be Still Michelle!
note to reader: For some of you this may sound crazy. I would be willing to bet, for most of you it might sound like some version of normal. So, from me to you. You are not alone.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Broom riding, kitchen dancing momma
I still get up at 330 or 4 am since thats when the "bull in the china shop" i love dearly wakes up to get his very busy day started. Now i am making lunches, getting dinner started, doing laundry and trying to keep my blogging going so as to not go all out insane. (partial is acceptable)
So the last few mornings as i listened to my music dreading my SSDD always filled in some way or another with much negativity (why cant people laugh more or say thank you for petes sake?)...i realized i was dancing and smiling. Lets look at what i do have. My music, my coffee, two of my babies home and bonus.....Asleep hence.. quiet, dinner ready when i get home most days (i LOVE my crock pot) and did i mention quiet? just an hour or more but im dancing and realize i can do some squats right? hmmm ok God, i gottcha.
My gym has become my kitchen and laundry room.
Had to add that^^^ how true is that? Do they hear anything else all day but that? hahaha unless there is money involved or well, nevermind. Have a great wed! <3 witch out
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
mean vs honest
Monday, April 1, 2013
Mom's - an under rated, all consuming love of a job
Im 45 and have had all of those feelings up there. I suppose its unavoidable. Circle of life must endure the pain of growth. some days it just makes me sad. I love no one like my children. I just recently told someone if you squeezed me and i were to burst it would simply be the love i have for my babies. I wonder sometimes if that is why God put my B in my life. He knew my stubborn, witchy self would never look for anyone, let alone take the time for someone else. So He threw B in my path and then set a fire under my girls to get us on a date. Our babies will go away, sometimes for a long time, sometimes for a day. I suppose we are not meant to be alone forever. B has his growing pains with his beautiful daughter and we love each other at any age. For that and for them i am grateful and pray each of our babies are blessed with.
p.s. the share status at the base, it came with the quote. i dont care what you share. haha.
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Family NMW
My family has many strangers. Anger, strong will, stubborn to the point of stupidity, some adhd, manic depression, quad polar (yes it is a real.....i love all my personalities), teenage pregnancy, food addictions, drug addictions, drug abuse and now i believe our new guest is OCD. What i believe was misdiagnosed from bipolar, that by the way i believe most people dont even know what bipolar is.
Anyway, this family member is not bipolar this new unwanted guest is Tada......OCD, be believe. It has been ignored for too long and pushed too hard and now it has reared its ugly head. So to war we go as a family and information i want.
When my Ta was diagnosed with asthma as a child i found out all i could. When Tj's body grew faster than his heart, again.....i read and found out all i could. When Faith started showing signs of my darkness or Emma my/and her daddys anger.....once again, i threw my self into finding out all i can to help or direct what/where we go from there. I am one of those The more information you have the better type of women. How can you make decisions if you dont know your options. I am also not a big medication person. If theres an oil or food or exercise that will help the issue i am going to find it. (this is where you remember friends.......wine is healthy in moderation)
So i ask you my fellow crazy's.....throw me all you have on OCD. Im ashamed to say i had no idea it was anything other than a term i used when i wanted to defend the fact that i am a slob. My family is everything to me and though we are all twisted and complicated, we are also a great team! Our NORMAL......works for us. (just slow learners, some slower than others......but just wait, we dont break)
Thank you in advance for your help and happy saturday <3
Friday, March 8, 2013
My boob..you will always be.
i will miss you forever, you are in my heart forever but ... you quit. i dont quit. I will get you to that mountain, some day. I know your watching. Enjoy the view. Its just faith my boob......believing in what you cant see. I wish you could have had that. R.I.P. my stubborn BFF . Good bye
.http://youtu.be/lZp6pmgbZyU
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Emotions be gone.
There are all sorts of reasons we "feel". Love, hate, anger, happiness, issue's (home, work, cars, errands etc etc etc lol) that you feel out of control of, maybe something out of sorts that you just cant put you finger on or maybe its just raining? Regardless, after months of change......i have had a few weeks of "feeling". Then i took those "feelings" out on someone. That someone has forgiven me quickly because well, he i believe knows that those feelings do not define me.
Last night, the end of a wicked week. I took my daughter and her friend to dinner. Missing our B and my youngest daughter, i felt "off". As i sat there i listened to their conversation. My overly emotional strong daughter explaining how to start controlling emotions in order to use them for herself instead of against others. she was talking to her friend about something B and i talk to her about!!! She heard something we said??? Could this be????????
That my friends......was my God saying. I got this, now go enjoy your weekend. Stress/feelings be gone. You are not allowed here, well not today anyway. <3
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Saturday, February 2, 2013
If you cant fly with the big girls, stay off the broom!
My two favorite tools as a momma are: My bible and my broom. They both can be used for almost everything. No really, think about it. (yes.....even that, though the bruises should never show. you know you thought it. hahaha) I have been a momma for almost 20 years now. In every aspect of my full time job called motherhood both with and thanks to my poor choices and a very bad person, without them for a short time. Both tools always come in handy.
Momma's are the most underpaid, over worked people in the world. We get very little credit, yet our demand is always high. The trophies and certificates of completion or appreciation do not hang on our walls and most of the time if we are lucky we sleep with the boss. (who also needs us) We do not earn sick time and the benefit package bites butt. I am also learning that the retirement package may not be what it was once cracked up to be.
I never get any rest, Will my house ever be clean again. Do they have to talk so loud. i cant remember the last time i got a bath, they do have a father, where is he? Will they ever grow up? Will they remember anything i say? I want to feel like a woman again. When do i get a break? Any of this sound familiar??????? Get over it your a MOM! If you want some down time no one can create that but YOU. So shut the pie hole (as my dear friend says ..so gross) and do it. Then stick to it. As Willie Wonka say's: "So much time so little to do...no reverse that."
Learn to say NO, then mean it. Boundaries...they are also multi functional. They protect and guard you and the person you probably should not punch in the face. I have learned through much failure..Boundaries are my friends. Im not as nice as i used to be ya know.
Our salary is the accomplishments of our babies. There pictures that hang on our walls, sit on our desk or are in our phones. Our credit that we so lack we get in a "love you momma" or every blue moon when you ask them to do something, they do it. Or how about when we hear our words come out of their mouths? WOW! right? The benefits package is the strength and endurance not to mention courage our children gain because of something we did right or maybe we did wrong. That retirement package.....well, im still working on that one. So far my Tootiebutt (grand daughter) is pretty amazing. The boss i sleep with......still loves me without a bath, grouchy and eats left overs when he hates them.
So i say, stop whining. Those babies will be your greatest accomplishments and they are watching you/us. What are they seeing?
Kisses and witch twitches xoxo
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
I love the moon! It never fails me
The moon doesn't have any emotions. It could possibly be the most perfect dependable item ever created...other than coffee of course
Monday, January 28, 2013
Get out of my head!!! Its crowded enough in there
Goal for the week: Stop the chatter in my head! 1/2 of it is not truth and the other half doesnt matter. Devil be gone!!! Only good, truth (even painful but pure) and what is real based on faith will be allowed in. Lets see how this goes. (so far......ugh but I can do anything i set my mind too with God and this strong willed mouthy family. prayers prayers prayers) I will not set myself up for failure. The bad things repeated to us day in and day out or how about year in and year out? They are easier to believe.
Thank you Unglued...i will not become unglued today! I am no longer self destructive or create the bad things in my life. Years of hard work to control this mouth, my reactions vs responses (the smart ass..not that is a family trait. cant fix that. its all Jim, thank you daddy) and now the chatter is wanting to return? um NO! Be gone. Back to some simple questions i ponder when this can happen:
1. Did someone actually say this thought i am having or am i making assumptions about what they might be THINKING?
2. Am i immersing myself in truth or what i believe to be true?
3. Are there situations or relationships (friend or family) that feed my insecurities?
4. Does the person i am allowing to banter in my head know me? Did i ask for was i asked to process this with them?
5. Does it matter????
ex: I am a bad mom. I am not learning my job fast enough, i do not keep a clean enough house. i should not allow my children to speak freely. I should be married. I dont do enough for my tootie. I am fat. I am too opinionated.
Do you do these things to yourself? How far can that blah blah blah in your head go? Do we take it from morning all the way to evening and then how big is it?
If i am to help my children not listen to anything but what God intends us to listen too (and me of course haha) Dont i need to control that big mouth in my head?
The judgmental, assumption toting banter are easier to believe when said to us. The kind things, the pure and honest banter when said to us.....thats the work we need to do. Believe that. I believe i deserve every bit of happiness I am blessed with and I believe i have worked my scrawny bony ass off for it. So there brain chatter! Take that.
Friday, January 25, 2013
DIY Woman/Momma
My children, are my responsiblity. From birth (or conception if your my oldest daughter) i have known that when the dr's said "you have a girl/boy" he really meant "you" meaning me. Dont misunderstand me. Their dad loves them dearly. They have a wonderful step mom and they even took over for a few years when my bad choice led to them needing to be away from said bad choice for a while. But all in all, they are my responsibility. Breast feeding, potty training, teething, doctors, dentists, school, activities, beatings,kissing booboo's, discipline etc etc......all me. The house chores and upkeep of our home and cars, all me. Their dad worked. He provided an income in a job that was demanding physically and he excelled at it, to provide me the ability to raise them, alone. (this lead to our demise by the way, but works beautifully in his new marriage.) Helps when you have the same belief's. We did not. My second husband well.....took care of himself and not always well (in his defense, he told me that he was first always. sadly i didnt really think he was serious, he was.) Thats enough there.
Again, they were always my job. MOM - full time all day, every day. I took it on and i took it on well. I also had a full time business that i owned. This lead to more and more and more and more. I surrounded myself with healed, strong women/men who became my support group/cheer leaders. I was a DIY woman. My Son refer's to it now as "momma, your a control FREAK".
I say to those that criticize the trait. Who was going to do it for me? In some cases, those that were most critical, never offered assistance? So....control freak or not. Here i am.
Here i am with another control freak/DIY man. What the hell??? They make those? I have heard of these creatures but i had never seen one. They do not have eyes in the middle of their heads. They dont even have halo's. They walk the earth just like us. Its true!!! Oh they arent perfect. (either are we, shhhh dont tell) but they do what they say and say what they mean. That picture up there is my new stove top. My old one met its maker a week or so ago. Funeral details to follow. Anyway, not only did this strange creature of a man go get it, bring it home but he put it in the same day. YES......you read right. The same day. THEN.........he cleaned up the mess. (moment of silence here ............) I personally had only witnessed this one other time in my life and as usual the gift came from a woman. So i say again....he cleaned up the mess!
He also helps without being asked with these teenagers that are not his and not always nice. He has taken the love of my tootie to levels i only watched in my dad. He owns his temper and is doing everything in his power to help my oldest twinkie with hers.
Its a family. There are two adults and i am no longer a DIY woman. (do not insert the country lyrics to Stand by your man here please) What i am is grateful for that damn stove top. I guess he didnt break it due to bad cooking on purpose.
So ladies and daughters and even some of you men. Take note......wait for him or her. Maybe you need to be Him or her. Whatever the situation....make the change. (crapp now i hear michael jackson's man in the mirror)
It is sooo worth it the wait!!
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Self control/ emotions vs Me
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Those first 40 years, we never listen...
Monday, January 21, 2013
No matter what
It is no secret that i believe that God made women the stronger sex. Why else would He equip us with the gift of child rearing? I say child rearing and not child birth because there are mom's out there that were given the gift of a child through someone else's gift of birth. (but were unable to care for the child) I was told at a young age i may not be able to have children. Once again, God's sense of humor was in my life. Not only could i have children but i could have three of the most beautiful, stubborn , strong willed creatures alive today. To be able to raise a child ... and not kill it is only a woman's gift. Look at some animals? They eat their young. This is frowned upon in all rights among most, so i deduce God made us the stronger sex.
My Memom told me at a very young age: "Mimi, you will fall in mud and come up smelling of roses" or as i like to think she meant; i will do everything the hardest damn way and survive it. Strength will choose me. Which meant with age, learn and grow from every mistake. Strong willed is no stranger to me. So of course i have three strong willed children. I have no doubt i will also have a strong willed grand daughter as she is showing signs of it already in her "NO! and STOP IT!"
Be careful what you wish and pray so very hard for. God will always hear our prayers. What we receive may be extactly what we prayed for. I wanted children. I wanted a mess of them and i wanted a family, not just a family but a "no matter what family". The I love you No matter what Family to me meant just that. No matter what you do, where you go, how you get there and when you return; i love you no matter what. I was taught that and i wanted to give it back so badly. I had the gift of a few that i pushed and pushed and damned if they never quit on me. So i prayed and prayed. Well, i got a mess of them in three. I ended up with them alone and i learned the hardest way i could how to be good at them. I have of course done all i can to mess them up and in spite of me, they too will had strength choose them. My girls more than my son but he has shown signs of strength when i was scared most. So there is proof that he too will survive his childhood.
I mentioned my grand daughter and prayers earlier; Gods sense of humor once again. I know already i will not live to be an old woman. This doesnt bother me. There are great things waiting for me in Heaven and i do not have any fear of death. I started praying years ago that i may live long enough to see a grandchild born and grow. That i would have a place for him/her in my home. Be the Mimi i was given in a Memom as a child. I learned obviously He listens, He gave me children didnt he? So why not just ask? Here you have just another prayer answered through comedy of the heavens. I became a "mimi" (as i was already one this wasnt a huge jump..dont judge the name, i was selfish child) at 43 year old. My son became a father at 17. I watched him not only become a father but embrace this child like no man i have ever seen in my lifetime. A man and a baby do no mix much in my eyes. My son however is a natural. This passed with immaturity and fear of responsibility over the next year but ... he is slowly returning with maturaity and balance or maybe just fear that i might actually kill him, i dont know for sure. Here once again, God said "ok Michelle, you prayed i granted". (BUT you will start early i guess??? ugh, He is so funny) Again, Strength found me.
I prayed for years and years for a "no matter what" family. Well i didnt pray to be in it alone. I didnt believe in Cinderella , the girl had zero taste in shoes..glass? Seriously? I also wasnt a fan of Ken, Barbie honestly marries a plastic surgeon girls. Really...
This may come as a shock to most of you but i am a bit of a handful, not easy to love and there is that complicated strong will. I just dont get it. I sound like a jewel, right?
Needless to say two marraiges, a failed long term relationship and through losing my very best friend (who could only be a man), i have my partner in crime finally. God's sense of humor. I had to lose it all. No, really..i lost everything and when i stood up my partner in life, the person that is capable of loving me no matter, what was around the corner (quite literally) most of my life and BONUS had another child for me to love. Gods sense of humor and strength found me.
I do believe woman are the stronger sex. I also believe we dont always choose strength. Most times through Grace, Strength just chooses us. Im stubborn enough to fall, but thanks to Grace; i am not stupid enough not to hold on to my strength when it chose me.
I have my No matter what life and damn if it isnt a comedy of errors and chaos. You can be very sure my prayers are much more clear and i listen all the time though i dont show it much... Like my children are to me. I am always His work in progress embraced by His sense of continuous humor.
Stay tuned...Lots of changes in this home are coming and these times always prove to be a challenge. I am very sure though.......We will survive it together, NO MATTER WHAT.
Sunday, January 20, 2013
People, Places and Things
Say what you mean, mean what you say
predictable poor behavior
Be who you are
worry withers the woman and musses the wig
At 45 I have made too many mistakes. Risked too much and obviously played a lot. I chose to have a 20 year long career that i loved. Use my time at home to play with my children instead of clean (single moms unite) and live my life to its fullest. Having accomplished most of that i lost much as well and have slobs for children. So now....it appears i have been given a second chance at this thing people refer to as family. Well.....it is the Lords honest truth that in this family my B and i are creating......NORMAL is only a setting on the very very used dryer. (note to self, remember to look into a new one)
We are a five child, two adult, two dog, one cat, with God directing us at all times home. (two live at home, 3 do not, right now anyway) All of us complicated in our own right and stubborn, pig headed, incredibly sassy/charming and independent. We want it our own way on our own time. WE....belong together, that is obvious to me daily. We were brought together through drama, pain, struggle and strife. We have and are healing, learning, facing life together head on. What a blessing i have been given. What an opportunity, ugh..........then why am i tired? I love all these people more than anything. I would take a bullet for any of them (would that get me a day or two rest in the hospital? ....no no no of course i dont mean that) My sweet sweet beautiful loves.
We have two kids in college. One who has a daughter of his own. He is stubborn, pig headed and does things at his own pace mostly at the cost of us financially. The other oldest is also in college. To look at her, she is practically perfect in every way. The judgement she owns is a family trait and along with stubborn beauty comes a brilliant and strong woman in the making, if we can get her to loosen up earlier than her daddy did. (im smiling as i type considering those two college students are SO ours...ugh the mothers curse)
The two younger teenage twinkies live with us. 15 months apart and a min from being our greatest accomplishments or our death. One that will learn self control and own her emotions thus taking over the world as one of strongest woman to walk the earth or be her own worst enemy for the next 20 years until like her momma.....she realizes "im doing this wrong". The other is our thinker. She is a homebody hermit that loves her movies and music. She watches.......she listens and she is like the others in this family stubborn. A classical beauty within her own skin unlike her siblings who walk in a room and take over, she walks in and does not notice the eyes on her. The eyes on her don't notice her taking it all in only to sum them all up with a word later that will probably be "boring momma or idiots!!!" haha. She is a pistol as my grandaddy used to say. (what does that mean?)
Then there is our tootie. 2 1/2 years old and her mothers greatest tool. I remember 19 years old. You could not pay me to be 19 again. No, really.... All that emotion and manipulation then add a child. This is a storm in the making and i pray when it begins to rain our tootie is not caught in the twister of her parents clouds. But.......we create our own drama and we drag our children through it, dont we?
I believe that old saying with all my heart. " Childhood is what we spend our entire adult life recovering from " - Hope Floats
My first 40 years have been the hardest. Now....i have what i want, need and love. How do i care for all of them, myself and succeed? This is where you enter my life. I say Laughter, some witch-full wishes and mostly prayer. You will catch me saying to myself and sometimes out loud "Jesus, Jesus, Jesus!!!" why you ask? Because i am outnumbered and will not loose. He brought me to this, He will bring me through this. My worry is His.
Security is a must in my life for me to feel good. I am feeling uneasy with my new job, I really am relearning the work force at this angle. I have always been self employed and working for others is interesting and less stressful. I work with great people yet still cant seem to feel secure. Then there is my sons ability to prioritize his daughter and balance his education and finances, my B's ability help me help my oldest daughters emotions while learning his own (in a home that will NEVER be to his liking... clean again) and missing his stubborn (like him) oldest daughter who has been Forced to share her daddy now as she once was an only child (for 18 years). My Tootie not coming home enough and having that balance of personalities in her life because her parents are still children. I never get everything done. What used to be "Why cant you wear two socks that match???" to my daughters has now become "just put socks on and get in the truck!" or knowing B loves my truck clean and its this little thing i can do to make him happy to telling him "its a truck and do you want clean underwear or a clean truck!" This by the way always send me to "Jesus, Jesus, Jesus!" and......it works. Mix my prayers with a glass of wine and some hugs from my family and anything is possible. I know that, you know that...God is in charge. Yet, here i sit. Praying and drinking my coffee full of worry for another day that will of course never go the way we plan it. Then there are the few questions of a personal nature in the back of my head (momma's dont get personal time...where would you fit it in?? i go to the gym, isnt that enough? i enjoy that..well, i try most of the time as that is where i spend time with Jesus and sort through my purekaoz) Will i get a shower today? When was the last time i washed my hair? Do we have enough milk? whats going to be for dinner? Will i ever get my wig done again? What IS that smell? and seriously, What in the hell is a triglyceride????